Many people suffer terribly when a family member or dear friend passes from this world to the next. If you are looking for something to ease your pain and/or lift the pain of another, here are a few helpful resources to explore and share…
Becki Hawkins is the author of “Transitions: A Nurse’s Education About Life And Death“
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Glimpses of Eternity
By Raymond Moody
Raymond Moody, author of the multimillion copy best-seller, Life After Life, reveals new results from his lifelong investigation of what happens when we die. Raymond Moody revolutionized the way we think about death with his first book, Life After Life, which was stories of people who died and then returned to life. Going through a tunnel, encountering an angelic being or having an out-of-body experience are hallmarks of what Moody termed a ‘near death experience.’ Since the publication of his multimillion copy best-seller, hundreds of thousands of people have contacted Moody to share their own experiences. The startling pattern that Moody discovered is that at the time of death, loved ones also have inexplicable experiences. Glimpses of Eternity is the first book to talk about the phenomenon of ‘shared death experiences.’ Readers will discover deathbed moments when entire families see the light or the room changes shape. Others tell of seeing a film like review of a loved one’s life and learning things that they could never have known otherwise. The stories are at once a comfort and a mystery, giving us a new understanding of the journey that we will take at the end of our lives.
Hello from Heaven: A New Field of Research-After-Death Communication Confirms That Life and Love Are Eternal
By Bill Guggenheim, Judy Guggenheim
“After-death communications,” or “ADCs, ” occur when someone is contacted spontaneously and directly by a deceased family member or friend, without the help of any medium. The authors’ research shows that these spiritual experiences offer hope, love, and comfort for thousands of people. Included are more than 350 first-hand accounts of those whose lives have been changed and even protected by messages or signs from the deceased.
The 12 Most Frequent Types of After-Death Communications
1. Sensing their presence
2. Hearing their voice
3. Feeling their touch
4. Smelling their fragrance
5. Seeing their apparition
6. Seeing a flat vision of them like a photo
7. Experiencing one of these types while half-asleep
8. Having a visitation dream
9. Having an out-of-body experience and meeting them
10. Receiving a telephone call (two-way conversations have actually been reported)
11. Experiencing physical activity such as lights, TVs, and radios going on and off
12. Receiving a symbolic message, sign, meaningful coincidence, or synchronicity
The 16 Most Frequent Messages Expressed By Departed Loved Ones
1. I’m okay.
2. I’m fine.
3. Everything is okay.
4. I love you.
5. Everything will be all right.
6. I’m watching over you.
7. I’ll always be there for you.
8. Don’t worry about me.
9. Don’t grieve for me.
10. Please let me go.
11. I’m happy.
12. I’ll see you again.
13. Go on with your life.
14. Please forgive.
15. Thank you.
Death: Reports From The Final Frontier
Wednesday, October 16, 2013
How would you feel if you woke up to find your dead parents or grandparents standing at the end of your bed, inviting you to come with them on a journey to the next world? According to one scientist, such deathbed visions are neither false comfort nor the stuff of late-night horror movies — and they may be a strong indication that there’s indeed life after death.
Alison Hilliard explores with three guests how such visions stand up to scientific investigation, and how they sit with Christian beliefs about what happens when we die. Her guests are Peter Fenwick, a neuropsychiatrist at the Institute of Psychiatry at King’s College London and author of ‘The Art of Dying’; Elaine Storkey, a Christian theologian and philosopher; and Judith Pidgeon of the Martinsey Isle Trust, which encourages people to think and talk openly about death.
People everywhere carry with them extraordinary, deeply comforting experiences that arrived at the moment when they most needed relief: when they lost a loved one. These experiences can include clear messages from beyond, profound and vividly beautiful visions, mysterious connections and spiritual awareness, foreknowledge of a loved one’s passing — all of which evade explanation by science and logic. Most people keep these transcendent experiences secret — deathbed experiences, Nearing Death Awareness, and shared death experiences. Individuals and families guard them for fear they will be discounted by hyperrational scrutiny. Yet these very common occurrences have the power to console, comfort, and even transform our understanding of life and death.
Prompted by her family’s surprising, profound experiences around the death of her father and her sister, reporter Patricia Pearson sets out on an open-minded inquiry, a rare journalistic investigation of Nearing Death Awareness. Pearson discovers that roughly half of bereaved people, as well as nurses, hospice workers, soldiers, and others who constantly observe the dying, have had intimations of enduring bonds that can radically help people to process their grief and their fear. Opening Heaven’s Door offers deeply affecting stories of messages from the dying and the dead in a fascinating work of investigative journalism, pointing to new scientific explanations that give these luminous moments the importance felt by those who experience them. Pearson also delves into out-of-body and near-death experiences, examining stories and research to make sense of these related but distinct categories that shed light on Nearing Death Awareness.
Countless people experience these coincidences when a loved one dies, while others experience such visions while they are dying themselves. These phenomena point toward a larger spiritual reality, and the reality of life (or something else) after death, yet are ignored in a cultural framework that dismisses anything that cannot be explained by the physical brain. But by dismissing or discounting these occurrences, we hamper our own healing. Challenging current assumptions about what we know and what we are still unable to explain, Opening Heaven’s Door is a groundbreaking, beautifully written exploration that will forever alter your perceptions of the nature of life and death.
Heavenly Hugs: Comfort, Support, and Hope From the Afterlife
By Carla Wills-Brandon
The nearly 2,000 cases of departing visions and visitations from deceased relatives and friends collected by the author prove that there is life after death. At the moment of physical death, departed loved ones return to the dying to ease travel from this life to the next. Friends, family, and healthcare workers also report seeing these loving spiritual travel guides.
Such encounters — reported by individuals from a wide variety of cultural, ethnic, and religious backgrounds — clearly illustrate that the personality, soul, or consciousness does not disappear or “die.”
To live our lives to the fullest, we must relieve ourselves of the false notion that death is the end. Departing visions help us do this.
Heavenly Hugs will introduce you to both historical and modern-day departing visions, proving:
• The dying have been reuniting with the departed — for centuries
• Departed loved ones escort the dying to the other side or next dimension
• Something has often been seen leaving the physical body at the moment of death
• Famous people have experienced beautiful departing visions
Final Gifts: Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs, and Communications of the Dying
By Maggie Callanan, Patricia Kelley
In this moving and compassionate classic — now updated with new material from the authors — hospice nurses Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley share their intimate experiences with patients at the end of life, drawn from more than twenty years’ experience tending the terminally ill.
Through their stories we come to appreciate the near-miraculous ways in which the dying communicate their needs, reveal their feelings, and even choreograph their own final moments; we also discover the gifts — of wisdom, faith, and love — that the dying leave for the living to share.
Filled with practical advice on responding to the requests of the dying and helping them prepare emotionally and spiritually for death, Final Gifts shows how we can help the dying person live fully to the very end.
One Last Hug Before I Go: The Mystery and Meaning of Deathbed Visions
By Carla Wills-Brandon M.A.
Death is one of life’s greatest mysteries. Over the years, the bestseller lists have contained many works on death-related phenomena: Betty Eadie’s Embraced by the Light; James Van Praagh’s Talking to Heaven; and Raymond Moodie’s Life After Life, are just a few.
One Last Hug Before I Go is the first book to explore in depth the Deathbed Vision (DBV). Complete with the author’s own encounters and those of over forty other DBV experiencers, this revolutionary work provides research information from the early twentieth century through the present. Included are: survivors’ detailed accounts of their departed loved one’s visions and final words; the survivors’ mystical experiences and premonitions preceding a loved one’s passing; accounts of seeing the soul leave the body; and after-death communications. These final words and visions from the dying provide a poignant, final farewell hug to loved ones, offering peace of mind and hope for an eventual reunion.
After finishing this fascinating book, readers will come away with a better understanding and acceptance of the process of death and see it as a spiritual adventure, not a sad and fearful ending to life.
Despite our advancements in science and medicine, death remains one of human civilization’s most glorious mysteries. A handful of doctors have written books on phenomena such as near-death experiences, but research and data is scarce on pre-death experiences. Because of this lack of information, Dr. John Lerma has devoted his career to compiling anecdotal and scientific research on pre-death hallucinations from the countless terminally-ill patients he lovingly cares for as a doctor and director at The Medical Center of Houston, Texas.
Now, in the groundbreaking book, Into The Light, Dr. Lerma shares his valuable research and guidance in 16 inspirational stories of children and adults confronting their deaths through the comforting visions of divine beings. By presenting these mysterious visions, synchronicities, and angelic conversations terminally ill patients encounter, Dr. Lerma shows how knowledge of death can ease the pain and fear as we prepare to enter into the light.
In this book you will learn:
• The exhilarating and calming elements of pre-death experiences.
• Healing during the dying process.
• The difference between hallucinations and visions.
• Self-forgiveness and self-love as the key to a joyous life and a peaceful transition.
The mystical experiences described here delve into: the creation of the universe, past and future extinctions, dark angels and white angels, selfless suffering and its effect on humanity, free will as the vital ingredient to create on earth and in heaven, and many more incredible revelations. The poignant stories in Into the Light will leave you feeling uplifted in faith, hope, and love.
David Kessler, one of the most renowned experts on death and grief, takes on three uniquely shared experiences that challenge our ability to explain and fully understand the mystery of our final days. The first is “visions.” As the dying lose sight of this world, some people appear to be looking into the world to come.
The second shared experience is getting ready for a “trip.” The phenomenon of preparing oneself for a journey isn’t new or unusual. In fact, during our loved ones’ last hours, they may often think of their impending death as a transition or journey. These trips may seem to us to be all about leaving, but for the dying, they may be more about arriving.
Finally, the third phenomenon is “crowded rooms.” The dying often talk about seeing a room full of people, as they constantly repeat the word crowded. In truth, we never die alone. Just as loving hands greeted us when we were born, so will loving arms embrace us when we die.
In the tapestry of life and death, we may begin to see connections to the past that we missed in life. While death may look like a loss to the living, the last hours of a dying person may be filled with fullness rather than emptiness. In this fascinating book, which includes a new Afterword, Kessler brings us stunning stories from the bedsides of the dying that will educate, enlighten, and comfort us all.
Transitions: A Nurse’s Education About Life And Death
By Becki Hawkins
Transitions: A Nurse’s Education about Life and Death is a collection of stories from Becki Hawkins’s patients over the past thirty years of her career. She started off as a nurse’s aide, became a registered nurse, and began her career in oncology. A couple of years later she also started seeing hospice patients. She also did outpatient oncology nursing, home health/hospice, became a hospice chaplain, and later a hospice volunteer. She now sees patients on a volunteer basis. She began writing a feature column, “Beyond Statistics,” for a local newspaper when her husband told her one evening after her shift at work, “Please don’t tell me about it. Write it down.” The first article was published in 1986. These stories are the patients’ stories and their education to Becki as she visited them about the transitions we make in life and in death. Some of them involve patients in the nursing home, others in the hospital or an outpatient setting, and many others in the patients’ homes. Some of the patients were strangers, some were friends, some acquaintances, and some were family. You will find humor, heartbreak, wisdom, and frequent spiritual allusions in Transitions. The author reminds us that life is brief and fragile, and laced with story after story of how each of us is “learning” in this place that one patient named “Earth School.”
For more information about Becki Hawkins and her book, go here.
LAST GOODBYES FROM BEYOND
By Stephen Wagner
No one knows for certain what happens to those who have died. Many are convinced, however, that they are sometimes in a place where they can still watch over living persons who are most important to them. Strong connections exist among blood relatives and even close friends. And these connections often seem to continue after death.
There are countless personal stories from people who believe they have been contacted in some way by a loved one who has passed on.
Often it’s just a feeling. Sometimes contact is made in a dream. Then every so often this contact is made in much more tangible ways: visions, sounds, smells and even voices.
Here are some remarkable true stories of contact from the dead, making their presence known one last time to settle some unfinished business, deliver a message, give approval or assurance, or to say a final goodbye.
WELCOME BACK, GRANDMA
By Chrissy T.
Everyone loves their grandmother, but for me she was the most important person I had ever met. I loved her so much that I found it necessary to be a part of her death. She died in my arms and it was the most important thing I had ever done. This night as I held her and she slipped away, I asked her to come back to me so I know she made it and she was happy. I am a firm believer in the afterlife and knew that if I asked her to come back, somehow she would.
When I arrived home the night she passed away, my telephone kept ringing. That in itself is not unusual; everyone gets phone calls. But do they usually get them on a phone that hasn’t been plugged in for weeks? The phone rang at least 12 different times that night.
It scared me to death. Worst of all, it scared my husband, who does not scare easily. My husband is a huge skeptic (or at least was).
I inherited my grandmother’s mink stole and her mink-lined ball gown. The night of her funeral, I walked into my walk-in closet and noticed the scent of her perfume. I noticed it because she wore Coty’s perfume, which you cannot find anymore.
My husband, being the skeptic he was, said, “That isn’t so weird. Her mink and gown are covered in the perfume.” It was so strong that usually you could smell it even when she washed her clothes. I agreed with him and didn’t give it a further thought.
Four days later, my husband and I went upstairs to our infant son’s room because we heard voices on the baby monitor downstairs. We weren’t all that concerned because we were unsure of what it was. We went upstairs and the teddy bear mobile over my son’s crib was moving slightly, as if someone had turned it on. As my husband and I stood in the doorway of the room, a slight breeze passed us both with the overwhelming scent of Coty’s perfume. My husband looked at me with tears in his eyes and said, “Hi, grandma. Welcome back.” From that point on, we only sense her perfume in our son’s room. It is great to have her back!
GRANDPA’S FINAL FAVOR
My mother and I were in my grandfather’s room; he had recently died. We had gone through his room earlier looking through papers and things that he had made. It was late at night and my mom and I started talking about Sam, one of her really good friends. We had moved away from my grandparents and my mom had lost Sam’s phone number. Sam was always close to my grandfather, and my mother wanted to tell her of his death.
We were lying on the bed when I looked up and saw Sam’s phone number written in big black numbers above his bed! The ironic thing was that we had looked through the room all day and never came across her number. Was my grandfather doing my mom a favor… or was it just a coincidence?
MOTHER APPROVES THE MARRIAGE
By Spirit Wolf
In December of 1980, my girlfriend (now my wife), and her two children, ages 8 and 10, had come to visit me and her sister during the Christmas holidays. One afternoon we were lying on my bed talking. We had both just come away from bad marriages about the same time the previous summer. We weren’t discussing anything in particular when the subject of marriage came up. We were lying on our sides facing each other, when I saw a beautiful Native American lady in a blue dress — or had a blue aura about her — suddenly appear on the bed behind my girlfriend.
The lady turned, looked at me and smiled.
“Wow!” I said, and my girlfriend went stiff in my arms. She asked me to describe what I had seen, and I told her. She told me that I had seen her mother, who had been dead for several years. I had never seen a picture of her mother, but she said that I had described her mother perfectly, and that she had been buried in a blue dress.
We took this as a blessing, and three days later we were married.
DAD CHECKS HER OUT
By Janice B.
My sister Lorraine has been with her high school sweetheart, Bruce, for 13 years now. They were married in 1998 and have a precious baby daughter. At the age of 15, and approximately six months before she met Bruce, she was asleep one night in our parents’ home when she was awakened by the feeling of a presence in her bedroom. She was lying on her back and opened her eyes to see a man’s face suspended above hers and smiling down at her. She described a feeling of total peace and calmly smiled back at him.
The face did not appear ghostly white or transparent, but rather pink and fleshly like a normal human face.
He had brown hair, brown eyes and a jolly round face. She looked at him for a while and then rolled over and went back to sleep. She thought about the face for a while thereafter, but as it didn’t disturb her in any way, she soon put it in the back of her mind.
A few months passed and she met Bruce.
They fell instantly in love and the time came for her first visit to his home to meet his family. Bruce met her at the front door and welcomed her into the entrance hall. On the wall directly in front of her was a collection of framed family photographs. In the center of the group, and occupying the most prominent position, was a photo of Bruce’s father, who she knew had died in a car accident a year earlier. It was the face she had seen months before!
She turned cold and started shaking. Bruce noticed and asked her what was wrong. “Nothing,” she replied, to which he responded, “You look like you’ve seen a ghost!” About five years later, she decided to tell him the story. Bruce just smiled, and with a tear in his eye replied, “That’s typical of my father to come and check out my future wife.”
GRANDPA ZOOMS BACK
My dad was a talented woodworker and carpenter. When he began to have strokes and lost the feeling in his legs, he started to use a three-wheeled motorized cart instead of a wheelchair. He was a crack-up. He used the thing like a motorcycle, driving all around in it. It made a distinctive whirring sound as it ran and it had a cute little beep-beep type of horn.
We live in a lovely home that my dad helped me design.
He didn’t do the labor, but I always say he built our house. We could hear him coming up the circular drive and beep his horn whenever he wanted to visit. My son Shaun and he were close, seeing each other nearly every day.
A few months after my dad passed, my son and I were at home, he in his bed room, me in the kitchen.
We both met in the entrance hallway, having heard something quite familiar: dad’s cart coming up the drive and his characteristic beep-beep! We just stared at the door trying to get up the courage to open the door. Finally I opened it… to nothing. Is grandpa still coming to chat at the house he built? We think so. I have heard him several times, and it is kind of comforting.
By Steve S.
This occurred sometime in the summer of 1991, when mom was selling our house. My father died in 1988. He often climbed onto our roof to check the shingles, clear the gutters, etc. My sisters and I had rooms on the second floor, while my mom slept on the first floor. One night during the summer of 1991, all of us were asleep when we were suddenly awakened.
We all came out of our rooms and asked if we had heard something.
We all described the same noise — the sounds of footsteps on the roof. I had distinctly heard them over my room, and my sisters heard them coming from that same general area. Even my mom on the first floor had heard them. My mom and sisters asked me to go outside to check it out.
As reluctant as I was, I went to investigate… but I brought our dog (and my dad’s old rifle) with me just in case.
I grabbed a flashlight and went outside, while my sisters and mom turned on as many outside lights as possible. I circled the entire house, flashing the roof and checking the surroundings. There were only two spots from which someone could ascend the roof without help. I found nothing and no one (somewhat to my relief, I might add). Plus, the sounds came from the opposite side of those accessible points — we would have heard footsteps well before we did if someone was walking across the roof. “They” would have had to cross over both my sisters’ rooms — but my sisters didn’t hear anything until the sounds were over my room.
Even more unnerving, though, is that the sounds stopped in the middle of the roof — as if whomever was up there just vanished. To this day, we all believe it was dad taking a stroll across the roof before we sold the house.
By Sandra M.
It was a little after 1 o’clock on a Wednesday morning. I couldn’t sleep. I was tossing and turning and hearing all of these voices in my head. Whisperings, “pssss, pssss,” all these voices talking to me all at once in my ears. It sounded like a hundred little voices talking all at once.
All of a sudden, I felt something in my room. I looked around in the dark and felt a presence. I couldn’t touch it or see it, but I felt it.
I actually felt my bed sag like it does when someone sits on the bed to talk with you. I pulled the covers over me and felt the hairs stand on the back of my neck and asked, “Who’s there?” It felt as if someone were watching me. After a while I fell asleep, but was kinda scared to be in the dark. The next day I couldn’t shake the feeling of the last night’s experience.
Two weeks later, my ex-husband called to tell me that our best friend Kay had died. Kay and I had become really goods friend when my husband and I lived in Oklahoma City. She was like a mother to me. Since my mother lived in New York and I was in my 20s, Kay kinda of took the position of mother to me. John told me that Kay had died in the early hours of a Wednesday morning. Suddenly I knew that my friend had come to say goodbye to me. It was Kay who was with me when she passed! Those voices were angels talking to me.
SHIRLEY SAVES HER BROTHER
By Donna B.
My mom told me this story, and she still cries when she tells it. It has never been explained. My sister, Shirley (the firstborn), died of Downs Syndrome at the age of two in 1961.
She had holes in her heart. Almost two years later, my mother had a baby boy, my brother, Steven.
One day in 1962, my mom was up in the attic doing some work, and my dad was in the basement in his workshop. Steven was supposedly napping in a playpen (age one) in the den. My mom heard, clear as day, Shirley’s voice saying, “Dadda! Dadda!” …and it was as though she were right there next to her in the attic. Clear as day. My dad heard the same thing down in his workshop. “Dadda! Dadda!” They both say it was distinctly Shirley’s voice. Loud and clear.
Dad ran up to tell mom, mom ran to tell dad. They both ran into the den, and there was baby Steven with a plastic sheeting of dry cleaner’s covering that he had reached for on the couch — and he was suffocating! Mom and dad both told us later on that it could not have been Steven calling them; he called my dad, “daddy” not “dadda,” and it was not his voice. They are convinced to this day that it was Shirley warning them that her brother was suffocating.
Wisdom of Near Death Experiences: How Understanding NDEs Can Help Us Live More Fully
By Dr. Penny Sartori
This book considers a wide range of experiences of dying patients that Dr. Sartori has encountered during her nursing career. It focuses on the near-death experiences (NDEs) of patients Dr. Sartori has nursed as well as the hundreds of cases of people who have contacted her over the years. Many people take NDEs at surface value and are mis-informed about the full extent of this highly complex phenomenon. This book examines all aspects of the NDE and Dr. Sartori emphasizes that by pathologising the NDE we are missing out on very important insights which can empower us to live fulfilled and meaningful lives. The results of her hospital research and that of others could not find a physiological or psychological explanation for these experiences and they can no longer be ignored or explained away. The crucial point of this book is that NDEs undoubtedly occur and have very real, often dramatic, life changing after effects. Further to that, the wisdom gained during the NDE can be life enhancing and have hugely positive effects on those who don’t have a NDE – all we have to do is take notice and hear what these people have to say. A greater understanding of NDEs can not only enhance the way in which we care for dying patients but also revolutionize our current world view. This book encourages readers to take notice of and incorporate the wisdom and powerful message of NDEs into their own lives.
For more information about Dr. Penny Sartori, her book, and the wide-spread interest her book has generated, go here.
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